Summary: Every year increasingly larger proportions of both internationally and domestically adopted children are arriving in their families not as newborns a few hours or days old, but at several weeks or several months or even several years of age. They arrive in loving, idealistic, but often ill-prepared families who may or may not have received all of the background information they need.
The children carry the good and bad baggage of prior placements in foster care ...show moreor institutions, sometimes with scars of pre-natal exposure to harmful substances or from neglect and abuse in birthfamily or in substitute care.
Today's typical adoptive parents need help to understand how prior experiences and changes in caregivers, in culture, in language, and more can create challenges for children needing to form attachments to their new parents. They need advice about how to obtain proper diagnosis, how to build a caring team for helping their child learn about relationships, how various approaches to parenting and teaching can make a difference, and how to find a therapist adequately informed, prepared, and experienced in the challenges facing these families.
Attachment therapist Deborah Gray's Attaching in Adoption provides thorough and up-to-date information, sensitive encouragement, calming support, and practical tools for just such families and those who work with them, using vignettes and anecdotes to demonstrate how suggested techniques can work to effect positive change. Here is a book destined to become a 21st century classic in the field of adoption and fostering. ...show less