Emotionally Intelligent Parenting : How To Raise A Self-disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child - 99 edition

ISBN13: 978-0609804834
ISBN10: 0609804839

Summary: With so many news stories in recent months about teen violence, suicide, and rape, it is clear we live in an age where teaching children basic values and moral sensibilities is at an all-time high. In a new book, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting: How to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child -- with a foreword written by best-selling author Daniel Goleman--child psychologists Maurice J. Elias, Ph.D., Steven E. Tobias, Psy.D., and Brian S. Frie ...show moredlander, Ph.D. show parents how to work with their emotions and also those of their children's in constructive, positive, and creative ways so that children grow up to be smart, confident, and productive adults.

"Emotionally Intelligent Parenting consists of specific, simple, important techniques that can make a difference in household peace and harmony," say the authors. "The concept is rooted in the biology of human emotions and relationships, enduring aspects of our lives, the neglect of which has been costly to parents and children, in our schools, workplace, and homes. Because of these roots, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting is both a new paradigm for parenting and a highly realistic and practical approach."

The goal of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting is skill building. Applying the following five principles that Daniel Goleman introduced in his best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, to parenting, the authors teach parents the importance of raising emotionally intelligent children:

• Be aware of one's own feelings and those of others
• Show empathy and understand others' point of view
• Regulate and cope positively with emotional and behavioral impulses
• Be positive goal and plan oriented
• Use positive social skills in handling relationships

Throughout the book the authors provide parents with strategies and tools--all based on extensive research, firsthand experience, and case studies--to help teach children how to master the required skills needed to learn these principles. Ultimately, children--and parents alike--will better deal with everyday issues such as sibling rivalry, fights with friends, homework, and peer pressure as well as some of life's greater challenges--making responsible choices, dealing with anger, being self-disciplined, and having sympathy for others.

The authors also introduce a new concept called the Golden Rule of parenting. "Do Unto Your Children as You Would Have Other People Do Unto Your Children" is the motto by which the authors want every parent to live. Following this rule will lead to more effective and confident parenting. "What can Emotionally Intelligent Parenting do for your household?" ask the authors. "First, it will help bring about more peace with less stress. It is a way to restore a sense of balance when stress takes its toll and the kids start fighting, cooperation turns to conflict, your teenagers rebel, and members of the family get frustrated with everything that seems to need to be done immediately."

Written with humor and filled with on-target examples, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting acknowledges the often chaotic reality of home life as well as the difficulty of drawing strict boundaries between thoughts, feelings, and actions. Complete with clinically tested approaches to help children become better problem solvers and decision makers, it also provides strategies that address several critical areas at once and offers parents a choice of activities to bring the joys of emotional intelligence into family life. ...show less

Edition/Copyright: 99
Cover: Paperback
Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Published: 03/28/2000